In both my personal and professional life, I often find myself struggling to ask for help. For me, this comes from a desire to control my environment and, if I’m being honest, my perceived image. I want to be viewed by my team as the one that works the hardest, fills in the gaps, and gets the job done. While attempting to own the brunt of the workload keeps my vulnerabilities from being exposed, it also gets me in over my head all too frequently.
As the attached article by Peter Bregman in Harvard Business Review explains, presenting that image and not asking for help when needed isn’t sustainable. Moreover, it prevents fostering honest connections with teammates.
I’ve come to realize that I can’t be in control all of the time…or really any of the time. But the idea of letting others in, and helping them to help me shoulder the burden is a new one. I intend to let my guard down a bit this year, be forthcoming in regard to my weaknesses, and see where it takes me.
This Talking Tuesday is presented by Ruth Vandruff, CDFA